Question for Jains in America (Pittsburgh)

I live in Pittsburgh, Pennslyvania. There is only one Hindu/Main Temple here. The only two major religions I haven't studied much indepth is Jainism and Sikhism. I'm largely interested in the Jain for their views on functional Pacifism (how to make the impossible work) and their logic. For the Sihk for their martial ethics. I've known more Sikh's than Jain, and suspect the Sikh can't answer my questions aim, as the one my unit in Alaska trained with kept saying he ate a monkey when India sent troops over to train with us. I'm nervous about asking the Jain questions, as their leadership/military caste was all killed off, and they seem to not know very much about their history. As a example, I knew a few from Instagram back when I was still a member doing research on parallel texts, and out of bordom I applied my research methods and found a 7th century saint's poem/prayer was actually a few thousand years older, having originated from Sumeria. It was very easy for me to find, but the Jain I knew were oblivious to this. So I panicked, not wanting to upset the religion.... some Jain can do that, BUT it is instictively something I naturally do. I notice things quickly, and figure stuff out, even though I feel ignorant and don't otherwise do well making a living.

Reason I was to visit is I just had a kidney removed for having a 10cm tumor on it, and a brain tumor. I was quite willing to accept death, and expected cancer to spread after surgury, but nothing. I freaked out. Reason is in part, while I never killed anyone directly in military service, AFTER leaving the military, I did cause a military campaign in another country across a whole province when I noticed a family of hostages thought to be held in one country was actually being held in another, and narrowed it down to a city, on a hill in one of the compounds there. It was the greatest act of compassion in my life, and was hoping we could get them out with zero to near zero causalties. We did indeed, but that military campaign happened, and I watched a few funerals after of officers' funerals.

I'm largely freaked out and horrified at myself. I have a strong instinct to continue, to save people in a similar manner, especially given how quickly it comes to me, but at the same time I am horrified. I can't find a ethical system out there that guides or informs me. I'm quite happy being a Christian, but Christians freely adopt ethical and philosophical concepts from other religions all the time, always have. But Jainism no longer has people like me in their ranks. Some philosophers on occasion, but when I asked the few I knew about the logic, they mostly shrug.

If I was to show up to the Jain temple in Pittsburgh, firstly, how do I know if they are the naked Jain or the ones wearing clothes before entering? I don't want that surprise.

Secondly, so I abstain from eating prior? I read you gotta have a clean mouth, but toothpaste kills germs, and I read the underlining logic of the face masks and water strainers is for keeping microbes from dying. If that is the case, what do Jain mean by clean mouths? Especially in a American context?

How do I ask for logical, martial-ethical, and political history texts in English. I've tried this with other religions, including Christian even, and they oftentimes are bewildered. Such questions are uncommon.

How much do I tip when leaving a Jain temple? Jain are filthy rich from my understanding, and I work as a laborer (will once again once my medical leave ends). I can't give too much. I'm basically trying to find a system already thought out which takes in consideration my reactionary horror to my actions with the need to act in situations where you know what to do, if you don't do it innocent people suffer horribly, at the hands of monsters, but if you do act, however well you try to contain the fallout to just a few really bad people, it can explode radically in your face.

I know about some aspects of Jain logic, like the response to Aristotle's Square of Opposition, which was quite funny, and a few ideas of perspective, but outside of that I am not seeing much in English.

I have some experience visiting ISKON temples, but they really didn't have the anwsers I needed (knew that in advance). The Mahabhrata was all about family fighting family, having a big pointless war, and then ending it by chopping someone's hair off, which in my opinion should of been done prior to everyone dying. Then they walk up a big mountain and everyone dies. That's really not a very helpful message for me right now. I have my doubts visiting the Jain temple will be remotely productive, but I need to do something to eliminate my concerns and continue trying to solve this dilemma. I don't know what survives of the writings of the old Jain order before they all got impaled. I suspect the other castes didn't preserve those writings. I sorta need them right now. I read most of the western and some of the Chinese ones. I know the Chanakya from the historians position, read him deeply and watched the TV Show (47 episodes long) but not the Jain version (bunch of versions of him apparently floating around). I don't even know who else the Jain have? If they are translated in English?

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