Bfs dog is driving me insane…literally

I apologise this is going to be a long one.

I’ve never liked dogs, and for good reason. Growing up, I was attacked by my mum’s dog when I was 9, leaving me with a bad injury and a hospital trip. Later, at 16, an unleashed dog chased me through a park, trying to bite me while the owner did nothing. Those experiences sealed my dislike for dogs early on, and I’ve hated them ever since—the smell, the barking, the clinginess, and especially the constant begging for food.

Now, I’m seeing a guy who has a dog (don’t ask me why) He knew I wasn’t a dog person from the start, and I set strict boundaries—no dogs on the bed. While he’s mostly respected that, the dog constantly begs for attention, especially when we’re gaming together. But what really drives me insane is mealtime. Every time we sit down to eat, the dog is right there, staring and begging for food. Its eyes watching every hand movement. I’ve asked him multiple times to move the dog, and he just doesn’t do it. Because “he starts growling at me” I’m a BIG believer humans come first, over any animal. You are the owner. Move the dog. You are letting it control you.

I hate being watched while I’m eating—it’s uncomfortable, frustrating, and makes me grit my teeth every time.

The worst was a few days ago when the dog shit in the house three times in the same spot, right after a long walk. Credit where its due, this dog does tell him when he wants to go to the toilet. So to me, this is clearly attention seeking behaviour. Low much?

What frustrates me is that he didn’t discipline the dog. He just said “naughty” cleaned it up and moved on. I decided to take it into my own hands at this point, i shoved the dog into the bedroom with my feet whilst shouting at it, shut the door and left it there. We discussed the situation and he does nothing but defend the dog. No more than 30 minutes later, he is in the bedroom petting the dog saying he is a good boy for “staying in its bed” ?????

Like ANY dog owner in the world, he says how loyal this dog is. I tell him everytime the dog is not loyal, it’s because you feed it. Nothing more than that.

Luckily he completely understands that I hate dogs and will never like them.

(I also just want to express how much appreciate this subreddit. Being able to express i hate dogs with no judgement feels cathartic)

Rant over. Thank you